What you'll learn

In this tutorial, Vicky Caves and her long-term, long-distance sub talk candidly about their relationship dynamic. They delve deeper into the nuances of power exchange, the role of communication, consent, and other fundamental power exchange topics. Whether you're new to kink and would like to explore the idea of a power exchange relationship, a couple in the midst of exploring kink and power exchange, or an established couple wanting to take Domination and submission to a much deeper level, this tutorial is for you.

  • Learn all about power exchange relationships from an ethical perspective

  • Gain ideas and tips about negotiating power exchange and what interests you as a couple

  • How to differentiate fantasy from reality and fit power exchange into your everyday life

  • How to make power exchange work for you in a long-distance or in-person relationship

Course curriculum

  • 1

    Introduction

    • Introduction (0:26)

  • 2

    Terms, Labels & Acronyms

    • Terms, Labels & Acronyms (5:30)

  • 3

    Safewords, Consent & Limits

    • Safewords, Consent & Limits (9:21)

  • 4

    Exploring Kinks & Interests

    • Exploring Kinks & Interests (2:57)

  • 5

    Fantasy vs Reality

    • Fantasy vs Reality (2:09)

  • 6

    Long-Term Dynamic vs Short-Term Scene

    • Long-Term Dynamic vs Short-Term Scene (8:21)

  • 7

    In-Person vs Long-Distance Total Power Exchange

    • In-Person vs Long-Distance TPE (8:14)

  • 8

    Use of Language (Punishments vs Consequences)

    • Use of Language (5:19)

  • 9

    Humiliation & Public Play

    • Humiliation & Public Play (7:14)

  • 10

    Lifestyle Dominant vs Pro Dominant

    • Lifestyle Dominant vs Pro Dominant (4:28)

  • 11

    Aftercare

    • Aftercare (3:40)

  • 12

    Feedback

    • Your Feedback

Meet your educator

Instructor

Vicky Caves

Vicky has been on the BDSM scene for 20 years and running Bondatrix - a Fetish business making clothing and equipment for 18 years. She is passionate about kink and loves many aspects, from bondage to impact play to head games and exploring D/s. Vicky has spent 16 years teaching BDSM classes on many topics and loves helping people to get the most out of their kink interests. Bondatrix is a small specialized BDSM company with a worldwide reputation, which won the International Bondage Awards in 2012 and the UK Fetish Awards in 2020. Bondatrix makes a wide range of fetish clothing, bondage gear, and impact and spanking toys. Many items are created in their UK workshop from the highest quality materials, which can be customized and shipped worldwide.

Domination & the Ethical Use of Power

Overview from Vicky Caves

Testimonials

Great Kink Educator

Mistress MK

Vicky is a great kink and BDSM educator who enjoys educating new and not-so-new BDSM’ers to not only have fun exploring their kinks but to learn to do it safely

Thorough Explanations

RedStarRising

Bondatrix does a great show and tell. Beginners enjoy the thorough explanations, and experienced kinksters can develop their style of play further

Informative and Enjoyable

Ruislip

A very informative, practical, and enjoyable class from an experienced and engaging teacher